For a single person, there are few experiences more frustrating than having someone break things off without explaining why. One day you two are really vibing; the next you get a “let’s just be friends” text.
We’re not promising to have uncovered the reason why things went south with the object of your affection. But it’s worth checking out the list below to see if perhaps you’ve been guilty of any of these unappealing behaviors.
To compile said list, we asked a panel of dating and relationship experts to tell us about the biggest turn-offs in budding relationships. Some have to do with your physical appearance; some have to do with the way you treat the other person.
Read on to learn about some potentially huge obstacles standing between you and true love. And if you’re getting paranoid, remember: most of these things are easily fixable.
Bad self-care habits
Examples include bad breath, body odor, terrible hygiene, and lack of etiquette.
“These are qualities that are seen early in the dating process,” said Dr. Terri Orbuch (PhD), relationship expert, Oakland University professor, and author of “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” “They are obvious right away.”
“They turn people off because they seem simple to attend to or address. It doesn’t take that much effort to have good hygiene. And people infer that the bad self-care habits infer something about the person’s habits in a relationship.
“The potential partner can’t or doesn’t have the time/effort/inclination to take care of him/herself — why then would they have the care/effort/inclination to put forth with someone else?!”
Criticizing or trying to control the other person
“People don’t like being told what to do,” Orbuch said, “particularly at the beginning of a relationship — and to do that at the beginning seems too self-centered and ego-oriented.
“Also, negativity and criticizing you at the beginning isn’t what people are attracted to. In general people are attracted to the opposite — positivity, optimism, and giving compliments!”